Friday, May 9, 2008

What happened?


Good morning. Hoping today will be a happy one. :o)


I'd like to know where my mail went!?! Yesterday when my daughter was here, I was still logged on, (I do that, I just minimize aol's window) and I seen that I had around 30 emails, and I signed on now, and they're all gone! This really upsets me. Oh well...what else is new?


It was soooo good to see my daughter and my grandsons. :o) It seems like my grandsons have grown so much. I wish I can see them more. :o) I miss them living here. :o)
Getting to play with Kayden a bit, and holding Andrew was great! :o) pawpaw put up a new basket ball hoop in the kitchen. It's a small one. So I can stand for a few minutes to play with him! Love it! I can't get enough! :o) Those boys can really do a great job of cheering me up no matter what. :o)

A very good friend of mine sent me this. :o) I love the house mouse! Plus...lol....mouse was my knick name in high school...lol, because of my voice. Thank you for sending this to me. :o) And also to LJ that sends me all kinds of graphics! Love them! :o)
Yesterday was 'my busy' day. Oh boy! lol! :o) My home health aide came, my food was delivered, and a different nurse came. I thought that the other nurse was going to be my 'regular' nurse. Geesh! I wish they wouldn't keep doing this to me. My legs, ankles and feet are still pretty swollen. Once again, nothing is working for me. My BP has been high and so has my sugar. But to me, thats life! :o) Nothing new. :o)

Now this graphic just tells it like it is. So very true.
By the way....if you sent me anything yesterday and still have it, you can resend it if you want to. :o)
Well....I'm going to go play some games on Pogo.
God bless all of you!

P.S. My side bar is a mess. Most of my graphics and my guestbook are all gone.  gggrrr!

"The two greatest fear busters are knowledge and action."
     --Denis Waitley


 



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Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Very Helpful Advice

Tape a chocolate bar to the outside of your microwave. If the chocolate
melts you will know that the microwaves are escaping and it is time to
have the oven serviced.

A mouse trap, placed on top on of your alarm clock will prevent you
from rolling over and going back to sleep.

Old telephone books make ideal personal address books. Simply cross out
the names and addresses of people you don't know.

Before attempting to remove stubborn stains from a garment always
circle the stain in permanent ink pen so that when you remove the
garment from the washing machine you can easily locate the area of the
stain and check that it has gone.

Lose weight quickly by eating raw pork and rancid tuna. I found that
the subsequent food poisoning enabled me to lose 12 pounds in only 2
days.

Avoid parking tickets by leaving your windshield wipers turned to fast
wipe whenever you leave your car parked illegally.

High blood pressure sufferers: Simply cut yourself and bleed for a
while, thus reducing the pressure in your veins.

Olympic athletes. Conceal the fact that you have taken performance
enhancing drugs by simply running a little slower and letting someone
else win.

Heavy smokers: Don't throw away those filters from the end of your
cigarettes. Save them up and within a few years you'll have enough to
insulate your ceiling.

Create instant designer stubble by sucking a magnet and dipping your
chin in a bowl of iron fillings.

X File fans: Create the effect of being abducted by aliens by drinking
two bottles of vodka. You'll invariably wake up in a strange place the
following morning, having had your memory mysteriously 'erased'.

A sheet of sandpaper makes a cheap and effective substitute for costly
maps when visiting the Sahara desert.



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Abuse


WHAT IS ELDER ABUSE OR ABUSE OF DISABLED (VULNERABLE) ADULTS?


Abuse is defined by state law, so there are well over 50 definitions. (1)


(Click here to go to the database of state laws)


"Abuse" includes many actions and non-actions:




Physical


Physical abuse is the use of physical force that may result in bodily injury, physical pain, or impairment. Physical abuse may include but is not limited to such acts of violence as striking (with or without an object), hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, shaking, slapping, kicking, pinching, and burning. The unwarranted administration of drugs and physical restraints, force-feeding, and physical punishment of any kind also are examples of physical abuse.



Sexual


Sexual abuse is nonconsensual sexual contact of any kind with an elderly person. Sexual contact with any person incapable of giving consent also is considered sexual abuse; it includes but is not limited to unwanted touching, all types of sexual assault or battery such as rape, sodomy, coerced nudity, and sexually explicit photographing.



Emotional or psychological abuse


Emotional or psychological abuse is the infliction of anguish, emotional pain, or distress. Emotional or psychological abuse includes but is not limited to verbal assaults, insults, threats, intimidation, humiliation, and harassment. In addition, treating an older or disabled person like an infant; isolating an elderly or disabled person from family, friends, or regular activities; giving an older or disabled person a "silent treatment"; and enforced social isolation also are examples of emotional or psychological abuse.



Neglect


Neglect is the refusal or failure to fulfill any part of a person's obligations or duties to an elder or disabled adult. Neglect may also include a refusal or failure by a person who has fiduciary responsibilities to provide care for an elder or disabled person (e.g., failure to pay for necessary home care service, or the failure on the part of an in-home service provider to provide necessary care). Neglect typically means the refusal or failure to provide an elderly or disabled person with such life necessities as food, water, clothing, shelter, personal hygiene, medicine, comfort, personal safety, and other essentials included as a responsibility or an agreement.



Financial or material exploitation


Financial or material exploitation is the illegal or improper use of an elder's or disabled adult's fund, property, or assets. Examples include but are not limited to cashing checks without authorization or permission; forging an older or disabled person's signature; misusing or stealing an older or disabled person's money or possessions; coercing or deceiving an older or disabled person into signing a document (e.g., contracts or a will); and the improper use of conservatorship, guardianship, or power of attorney.



Abandonment


Abandonment is the desertion of an elderly or disabled person by an individual who has assumed responsibility for providing care or by a person with physical custody of an elder or disabled person.



Self-neglect


Self-neglect is characterized as the behaviors of an elderly or disabled person that threaten his/her own health or safmeety . Self-neglect generally manifests itself in an older or disabled person's refusal or failure to provide himself/herself with adequate food, water, clothing, shelter, safety, personal hygiene, and medication (when indicated). The definition of self-neglect excludes a situation in which a mentally competent person (who understands the consequences of his/her decisions) makes a conscious and voluntary decision to engage in acts that threaten his/her health or safety.


 


WHO ARE THE VICTIMS?


 


States define by law who is considered a victim of elder/vulnerable adult abuse.


All states have laws covering abuse of elders, which means someone 60, 62, or 65 years of age and older as defined in that particular state law. Some laws cover only " vulnerable" elders, using various definitions of "vulnerable" to mean having certain disabilities or medical conditions or being particularly "frail." Most state vulnerable adult abuse laws also cover people with disabilities age 18 and over. Which disabilities make someone fall into the "vulnerable" category varies from state to state. (Click here to go to the database of state laws)


That does not mean that because you don't fall under your state's definitions, you are not a victim of abuse; the emotional, physical, and financial consequences of being abused are just as bad for someone who does not meet their state law's definitions as they are for someone who does fall within the definitions' scope. But those state definitions can govern what your abuser may be charged with and what services may be available to you.


Anyone call fall victim to elder or disabled adult abuse.


Some sources say the "typical" or "average" elder abuse victim is white, female, and above a certain age. There are currently more white elders in the U.S. than there are elders of any other race, and there are more female elders in the U.S. than male elders, so it makes sense that more of them, numerically, are abused. Some studies do show that rates of elder abuse rise as ages rise -- in other words, a 95-year-old elder is more likely to be abused than a 65-year-old elder. This may be because some abusers hope a much older person will die or develop dementia before the crime is discovered.


But the truth is, elders and adults with disabilities of all ages, both genders, all racial backgrounds, all incomes, and all education levels can and do become the victim of someone who decides to hurt them or who assumes care for them but is unable to handle the demands. Being weak, confused, lonely, "tricked," or anything else is not the reason someone gets abused, neglected, or exploited. The reason someone gets abused, neglected, or exploited is because someone made a decision to hurt her or him or let him or her be hurt.


Studies do show that adults with disabilities are many more times likely to be victimized by someone else than are adults without disabilities. This is probably a result of the abusers thinking people with disabilities are less likely to fight back or be believed when they report a crime.


 


WHO ARE THE ABUSERS?


 


Abusers can be family members, paid caregivers, neighbors, lawyers...anyone.


Because there is no federal agency that collects and compares data from all of the state agencies that handle different types of abuse, neglect, or exploitation of elder and disabled adults in all the settings in which they reside, we really don't know what type of person is most likely to become an abuser. Studies of the abuse of elders living in private homes show that the vast majority of their abusers -- between 75 and 90 percent -- are family members: spouses, adult children, grandchildren, siblings. But many elders and adults with disabilities are abused by non-family members.


We do know that people who abuse drugs or alcohol, or who are dependent on the elder or disabled adult for their income, seem to be more likely to become abusers. But stable, well-regarded family members can also decide to take "their inheritance" before it is spent or hit a grandfather who isn't doing what they want them to do. Paid professionals like accountants, lawyers, and insurance agents also sometimes abuse their positions to take advantage of an elder or disabled adult.


 


WHAT CAN BE DONE ABOUT ABUSE?


 


Legally, you may be required to report suspected abuse.


Most states have what is called "mandatory reporting." That means that certain types of professionals or, sometimes, "anyone" must report to police and/or adult protective services when they suspect someone is being abused. If you do not, you could be prosecuted (although that is rare, except in cases of abuse in institutions like nursing homes). Reporting can always be done anonymously, and your identity is always kept secret. If you report your suspicions and it turns out nothing is wrong, there are no consequences for you. The only exception to this is if you knowingly place a file report in order to harass someone. In all other states, reporting is strongly encouraged, so that professionals can help assess what's going on and get help in if it is needed. (Click here to go to the database of state laws)


Many systems offer services to elder and disabled adult abuse victims.


Most states have an Adult Protective Services (APS) or Elder Protective Services, usually at the county level, that receives and investigates report of elder or disabled adult abuse. Many types of abuse are crimes, and so the police sometimes get involved. Long-term care ombudsmen help resolve abuse and neglect complaints in nursing homes, and protection and advocacy services address problems in residential facilities for adults with disabilities. For more information on what agencies are involved in addressing abuse and how you can locatethe one in your state or area, go to ASAAPS' reporting section.


Be a good friend.


People who are abused, neglected, or exploited often feel ashamed, angry, fearful, confused, and lots more emotions. You can be most helpful by listening to their feelings, believing what they say, supporting their right to continue to make decisions for themselves, and accompanying them as they move through the service and criminal justice systems. What is not helpful is: blaming them for what happened; questioning how they could have "let" it happen; making them move or give up banking or activities; and taking control of their lives. Changes in ability are nearly inevitable with advanced age, and the experience of abuse may make people notice changes they had overlooked before. Nevertheless, becoming the victim of abuse, neglect, or exploitation does not mean the person is automatically incapable of staying in charge of their lives.


What they most need is for those around them to not blame them, not take control of their lives


Be an advocate.


For the most part, the systems that have been set up to help elders and adults with disabilities who are victims of abuse are under-funded, under-trained, and often lack the legal tools they need to do what we want them to do.


You can help by being aware of what legislation is pending that would either help or hurt prevention and intervention systems and efforts, and then making your opinion known to your elected representatives. To see ASAAPS' listing of some of the relevant pending Federal and state legislation, click here.


 


CAN ABUSE BE PREVENTED?


 


There are many ways to lower your risk of being a victim of abuse.


Even though it is the abuser's decisions, not the victim's, that cause abuse, there are some things you can do to lower your risk of becoming a victim. For more information about how you can help protect yourself, go to ASAAPS' prevention section.


There are also many things that family and community members can do to help protect older and disabled loved ones. For more information on these techniques, go to ASAAPS' prevention section.


 


National Center on Elder Abuse, The National Elder Abuse Incidence Study Final Report, Administration for Children and Families and Administration on Aging, 1998. These definitions were developed through a four-step process: analysis of then-current state definitions of domestic elder abuse; the convening of local roundtables of practicing professionals to gather firsthand knowledge about how elder abuse is detected, reported, and investigated; a critical review of preliminary definitions by a group of elder abuse experts; and a pilot field testing of the consensus definitions. ASAAPS has adapted them to also pertain to the abuse of younger disabled adults.



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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

I have so much that I need to log today.
*****Warning***** I might say something that offends someone.


This part shouldn't be offensive. Since last Thursday, I've been having a pretty hard time using my hands. I cant even count how many times that I've dropped things. Already this morning, I dropped my coffee carafe on my right thigh and burnt it. Again, I just started crying. I don't like it when I cry. Thats all I seem to get done doing. I was able to get up and get another gown on and did my best with my thigh. Last Thursday, I was in the kitchen with my home health aide and I was making a cup of chocolate milk. When I picked it up, I dropped it, and the whole cup was all over the floor. And she just washed the floor. I'm glad she has a good sence of humor. Since then, all I keep doing is dropping things. My hands aren't working right like they did. I was so glad it was the weekend too, because dh was here with me. He's already called me to see if things are going ok. I told him about the hot coffee.
Dh was very helpful to me all weekend. I don't know what I would've done without him. I appreciate everything that he does for me. My BP yesterday morning was 149/135. Pulse was 112. It's gone down a lot. This morning it's 141/86. I do these before I get out of bed.
My legs, mainly my right one are swelling again. I don't know the 'why' in this. I'm starting to get used to it. I don't know if thats bad or good. Just used to it. I wanted to take a nice hot bath last night. Dh wouldn't let me alone, and I'm glad. He seen how I have to struggle just to shave my legs, (my legs don't 'twist' anymore from the hip, they are just straight) and just how hard it is for me really just to do anything. He kept telling me to breath. I told him thats what happens when I get a bath, it takes so much out of me. Thats sad. I should be able to take a bath if I want to, on my own without getting so out of breath. When I was done, I hurried to get my oxyden on. Of course that helped me.
*****This might offend someone*****
Dh had came down and was talking to me in my bedroom. ( LOL....I'll tell you later ) I asked him if he might have noticed how much it takes out of me just to bath. My hips really don't work anymore and nor do my shoulders. Which makes it hard to do certain things in everyone's life. I asked him that when he is here, if he could wipe me after I go #2? I feel so bad having to actually ask that. I've told myself, if I ever have to have someone do that for me, then there goes my dignaty out the window. I can't do it anymore because of my stupid shoulders. There has been way too many things happening to me all at once again. I'm losing so much more abilities again. It's 99.9% to where I shouldn't be here alone anymore. After I get done with this, I'll play some games on Pogo then go back and watch tv in bed. The thing that I thought was funny; Dh bought me an air conditioner just for my room. Yes, we do have central air but it doesn't seem to be enough anymore. My system is out of whack. He told me that now that I have that in my room, that I can freeze myself as much and often as I want to. When he came in to talk to me, he had on 2 coats and a pair of gloves. lol I had it pretty cold. I think it was 60. Plus 2 fans going. :o) It was perfect for me.
From me dropping almost eveything I've had in my hands this weekend and then having to ask him if he could wipe me, my mood isn't too good. I do feel depressed and just overloaded with too many things that I'm losing so fast once again. My meldown wasn't even done yet. I'll just chuck it in with all of the other things thats fueling this meltdown.
I hope you like the pictures above.


Lisa


 


Sunday, May 4, 2008

~Bad Day


Next time you have a bad day at work...think of this guy: Rob is a
commercial saturation diver for Global Divers in Louisiana. He performs
underwater repairs on offshore drilling rigs. Below is an E-mail he sent
to his sister. She then sent it to Laughline, who was sponsoring a
"worst job experience" contest. Needless to say, she won.

Hi Sue,

Just another note from your bottom-dwelling brother. Last week I had
bad day at the office. I know you've been feeling down lately at work,
so I thought I would share my dilemma with you to make you realize it's
not so bad after all.

Before I can tell you what happened to me, I first must bore you with a
few technicalities of my job. As you know, my office lies at the bottom
of the sea. I wear a suit to the office. It's a wetsuit. This time of
year the water is quite cool. So what we do to keep warm is this: We
have a diesel powered industrial water heater. This $20,000 piece of
equipment sucks the water out of the sea. It heats it to a delightful
temperature. It then pumps it down to the diver through a garden hose,
which is taped to the air hose. Now this sounds like a darn good plan,
and I've used it several times with no complaints. What I do, when I get
to the bottom and start working, is take the hose and stuff it down the
back of my wetsuit. This floods my whole suit with warm water. It's like
working in a Jacuzzi.

Everything was going well until all of a sudden, my butt started to
itch. So, of course, I scratched it. This only made things worse. Within
a few seconds my butt started to burn. I pulled the hose out from my
back, but the damage was done. In agony I realized what had happened.
The hot water machine had sucked up a jellyfish and pumped it into my
suit. Now since I don't have any hair on my back, the jellyfish couldn't
stick to it. However, the crack of my butt was not as fortunate. When I
scratched what I thought was an itch, I was actually grinding the
jellyfish into my butt. I informed the dive supervisor of my dilemma
over the communicator. His instructions were unclear due to the fact
that he, along with 5 other divers, were all laughing hysterically.
Needless to say I aborted the dive. I was instructed to make 3 agonizing
in-water decompression stops totaling 35 minutes before I could reach
the surface to begin my chamber dry decompression. When I arrived at the
surface, I was wearing nothing but my brass helmet. As I climbed out of
the water, the medic, with tears of laughter running down his face,
handed me a tube of cream and told me to rub it on my butt as soon as I
got in the chamber. The cream put the fire out, but I couldn't poop for
2 days because my butthole was swollen shut.

So, next time you're having a bad day at work, think about how much
worse it would be if you had a jellyfish shoved up your butt.



 



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Saturday, May 3, 2008

Little Mary Margaret

Little Mary Margaret was not the best student in Sunday School. Usually, she slept throught the class. One day the teacher called on her while she was sleeping, "Tell me Mary Margaret, who created the universe?" When Mary Margaret didn't stir, little Johnny who was her friend sitting behind her, took his pencil and jabbed her in the rear. "God Almighty!" shouted Mary Margaret.

The teacher said, "very good" and continued teaching the class. A little later the nun asked Mary Margaret, "Who is our Lord and savior?" But she didn't stir from her slumber. Once again, little Johnny came to her rescue and stuck Mary Margaret in the butt. "Jesus Christ!" " shouted Mary Margaret and the teacher once again said "very good and Mary Margaret fell back to sleep.

The teacher asked her a third question "what did Eve say to Adam after she had her tenth child?" Again, Johnny to the rescue. This time Mary Margaret jumped up and shouted, "if you stick me with that damn thing one more time, I'll break it in half!" The teacher fainted.



 



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Friday, May 2, 2008

Pictures



Good afternoon.


I've been taking my BP, Blood sugar, weightand pulse every morning before I get out of bed. (except for the weight) This is my last readings; BP-150/129, weight-222-pulse-90 Blood sugar-139. I don't know if any of these are bad or not. Too much going on and I'm not rememering much anymore. I think my BP is high though. My nurse came yesterday. She did tell me that the new doctor had called he to let me know to keep a log and do the things I've already been doing. Thats good because if I put too much more in my brain, Its going to explode! Just to remember.

I do like this new nurse alot. She just comes in and just starts doing what she's supposed to be doing. I do get good vibes from this one, she doesn't at all make me nirvouse. I don't need that either.
She also needed to get blood, two tubes. Not bad. :o) I told her that she needs to just keep a butterfly in my arm to make it easier on the both of us. :o) My feet and ankles are down a bit. Shes still concerned about me. Too bad she can't be my doctor.
I've been so thirsty lately. I made a big pitcher of iced tee yesterday, and I've drank that, and now I'm in the prosses of making more. I can't get enough. :o)
I just thought of something....I'm drinking like its going out of styl and I'm only urinating like I normally do. I wonder if I'll swell again because I'm not urinating like I should. <sigh>
And yes, I am done with all of this. I'm just going to medicate myself so all I do is sleep. Then I won't have to deal with all of this. I'm depressed, I lost my best friend, and I don't have anyone to talk to that either doesn't understand or anyone. Like if my best friend would come over I'd have her to talk to. My home health aide was here yesterday and I had two hours to just talk. And she didn't mind at all. I really like her a lot.
She was in an orginising mood and looked around and asked where should she start. :o) Thats exactly what my 2 rooms really need is to be orginized. She did get 1 corner done for me. And just that really helps me. And I really appreciate it as well. She told me that she's been spring cleaning at her house and she still had the 'cleaning' mode in her! :o) Shes young...kind of looks like she could be my sons age. So she's younger then me and is able to do all kinds of things. lol :o)
I am really hurting today. My arms and my legs. They are having problems working. My arms feel like they weigh 200 pounds. No kidding.
I'm leaving now.


The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

- Allan K.
Chalmers



Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed.

- Storm Jameson