Monday, January 30, 2006

:::::Sigh:::::

Yesterday was another one of those days again. For the better part of the day, it was just my husband and I here at home. I was in bed on the heating pad. Now both of my hips are hurting and my upper left thigh. And now my upper body decided to start in on me again. I was expecting my sister home and my daughter had said that she was going to come over for a bit. I didn't know where my son had gone, so I didn't know when he'd be back. My best friend came over which really cheered me up. :o) Right after she left is when everyone started coming home. :o) It was great to see my sister again and my grandson. :o) My son came home with his girl friend and a few of his friends. At around 7:00, my daughter asked if I could babysit for a few hours so she and her boy friend could go to dinner or watch a movie. Of course I did. :o) With the help of my sister and my husband. Now....what I witnessed last night of my grandson, my daughter and my son is what is tearing me apart! My son has not listened to our house rules for some time now, and I'm going to give him 2 weeks to find another place to live. I can't handle the stress from that! When my daughter was here with my grandson, I noticed that when he was going to sleep, he had to hold her hair to fall asleep. and when she would try to get her hait out of his hands, he would wake up crying. Now, to me thats a security issue. In my opinion. Plus, when she was here, he was very hyper, which is not like him normally. Of course, I didn't mind. :o) But what I noticed and my husband and sister did as well, was after she left and his dad, he went right back to the way he is normally! And was I was rocking him to sleep, he did still have to have something in his hand to fall asleep. This is all new. Last week when my sister and I watched him, he was so mad, we put him in his play pen and he did nothing but yell and scream for about 2 and a half hours! No crying no tears, just a bitch session for him! After he got it all out on his toys and beating them up as well, he was all better and right back to being the same as I know him to be. I do know that my daughter and her boy friend haven't been getting along for awhile. In my opinion, I feel that my grandson has witnessed way too much! And it hurts me to see this. :o( So, my heart is very upset. :o( I don't know what to do. If anyone does, please help. I can't stand to see my grandson go through this. I've tried talking to mydaughter about it and I thought I got through to her, but I guess I didn't. Because in my opinion, my grandson should be their prority! As I'm seeing it, he's not! :o( It's just tearing my heart out! :o( My son, I know how to handle, but this situation, I don't. When I know it's not just me seeing this and so is my husband and my sister, then I know something is wrong. :o( I just had to get all of that off my chest.


Please keep comments coming...I really need them. God bless you. :o)

8 comments:

soupergurl68 said...

yea sounds to me this baby needs to be eveybodys first priority and he's not. I can see he is for you and your husband but for the others he is not. Yes he is seeing way too much at home for him to be racting the way he has so quickly with the changes in him. I really dont know how to talk to the mother and really get her to listen without making her mad. All I know is I have storeis and Seve has stories of our lives we'd love to share with her and they are true life lessons, but to get her to really listen is the hard thing. I love her and hope that we can get thru to her for the baby's sake. And well your son thats easy he just needs to get out and grow up right now he is just taking advantage of you and Jim way too much and it has went on way too long. Now he's putting everybody at risk with his selfishness....

seraphoflove9001 said...

Yes, my grandson is the priority in this whole situation! Thats the problem! My husband and I and my sister can see it, and I've talked to her last week before she went down south to visit, and I thought she was going to do what she told me! But now since they've been back....there's a big change, and the baby is having more issues about something that he is seeing and witnessing! And it just breaks my heart to see this! I do not know why other members of the baby's family isn't seeing this! It is breaking my heart. :o(
Lisa

dianneclewien said...

Oh Lisa,
I can so understand your feelings about the baby. Let me tell you a short story. I have a grandson who is now 9, but when he was just a few months old (maybe 8 months or so), he would scream like he was scared to death if so much as a doorbell rang. He had heard the terrible arguments his parents had. He heard the fist fights they used to have and the police being called, of having to go to his paternal grandmother when his parents were both hauled of to jail for domestic violence. Let me tell you all that fighting and such made a big impresison on him growing up. He became a bully out of control to the point where his mother is afraid of him, a little boy. He has been institutionalized because of the temper and things he does. Talk to your daughter quickly, make her understand what she and the boyfriend are doing to this child. If you need to tell her to write to me, but get them to stop now, before they do irrepairable damage to this child. This scares the crap out of me, there are way to many dangerous children in this old world (look at the number carrying guns into our schools, nowdays. Remember the yound boy in Florida justa few weeks ago), without their  parents adding to it. I'm sorry, I hope I have not offended you by saying what I have, but I felt like I needed to say it straight out.
Blessings and prayers.
Dianne

rruukidnmee77 said...

YOU LIVE WHAT YOU'VE LEARN....Think about it....WHO IS her role model???????  Where is Lifeistoshort 4me - when you need her?????????

seraphoflove9001 said...

Dianne,
Thank you. No, you didn't offend me at all. Thats what I've been seeing. Thank you so much for your support. :o)
Lisa

seraphoflove9001 said...

rruukidnmee77 ,
You can beleive what you want to. But what the problem is she's in a bad relationship and is afraid to get out of it. Ok? No, she did not "learn" that from me. If you have anymore nasty things to say to me, email me! Ok? I already know who you are, and it's not funny for what you are doing.
Lisa

seraphoflove9001 said...

rruukidnmee77,
By the way...about lifestoshort, that email doesn't exist anymore. And you already knew that.
Lisa

seraphoflove9001 said...

rruukidnmee77,

ARE YOU KIDDING ME??????? PLEASEEEE!!!!!
Lisa